Biblical Woman
God was talking with Adam. He said, “You really need a helper, don’t you?” And Adam answered, “Yeah, I really do.” So God said, “What if I make a woman? She’ll be perfect for you. She’ll be beautiful. She’ll rub your back at night, & your feet in the morning. She’ll plop grapes into your mouth. She’ll prepare all your favorite meals without fail. She’ll clean up the kitchen & take care of the kids. You’ll never have to do a thing, just sit around & be the king of your household.”Adam said, “Boy, that sounds great, but how much is this going to cost?” God said, “Well, it’s pretty expensive. It will cost you an arm & a leg.” Adam thought for a moment & then asked, “How much can I get for a rib?”
Review- Men lead, Women follow. This is so that the world can know God and glorify Him. If that’s important to you, what the Bible says about the role of men and women should also be important to you.
Men Lead- Some were worried when they heard this. But last week we looked at the two paradigms of leadership. Lording and Loving. We discovered that the only way God approves of leadership is loving leadership. The man is to lay down his life for his wife.
Women Follow- What does this mean? The bible answers this question too. In Ephesians 5:21-24 we read, 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
The context for men to lead and women to follow is mutual submission. Neither is asserting self over the other, but rather self-will is sacrificed for the sake of the other. That is why Genesis 3:16 is so shocking. Here we read of the great divide that is the result of sin. When sin enters in, biblical man refuses to die and biblical woman refuses to submit.
Turn with me to Genesis 3:16
Text:
Genesis 3:16
To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
Body:
Submit = Respect + Obey
No man can lead a woman who won’t be led. Some have said, man may be the head, but the woman is the neck.
This morning I want to compare and contrast two passages: Genesis 3:16 and Ephesians 5:21-24. The first explains the reason that women and men struggle in their God-given roles. The second explains how we can be restored to the place God originally created for us.
“Desire will be for your husband” - In Genesis we learn that part of the curse of the woman is that her desire will be for her husband. What does this mean? There are only three places in the Bible where this particular Hebrew word is used. Once in this passage, one in the next chapter and once in the Song of Solomon. In the Song of Solomon 7:10 it says, “I belong to my lover and his desire is for me.” Clearly here it means that he has the hots for her. If this is the meaning of the word desire in our passage it would mean that the curse on the woman is that she would have the hots for her husband. Most of us guys would agree that it’s a blessing whenever our wives are attracted to us. Clearly this is not the curse.
In chapter 4 of Genesis we see the same word used of Cain when God says to him, But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it." Here it has the meaning of overcoming you or mastering you. This is the meaning in chapter 3. Because of sin the woman desires to take her husband’s role over. Her sin nature causes her to desire the lead even as the sin nature in the man causes him to rule when he should be serving.
The answer to this problem is found in Ephesians 5.
v. 21 Both men and women need to submit to each other. This is explained in vv.22-33.
Men do this through dying to self. Women do this through submitting their will to their husband. Three times in these verses the woman is instructed to submit. This means respect + obey.
What does this look like?
Jesus in the Garden. “Not my will but yours be done.” Jesus demonstrates submission within the trinity. Notice that He has a will. Women are supposed to have their own desires. That’s Godly. Notice that he voices His will. Women are supposed to have a voice and be bold to share their desires. But despite voicing His opinion clearly Jesus says, “nevertheless, not my will but yours be done.” This is what submission looks like. You recognize that after you have said your peace, you will leave it in God’s hands to decide. In Jesus’ case, He did not get what He asked. Did God the Father not hear Him? He did. But His will was better. Jesus recognized this and went with it. It’s no different in the context of marriage.
What if your husband is not a godly man?
“The only thing worse than being lonely is being stuck.”
Seven things Husbands need from their wives:
1. Respect – How you speak to your husband in private and in public. Man at dinner who’s head was bowed in defeat.
Balloon.
Nicole is “my biggest fan.”
2. Sanctuary – Well-managed house. Righteousness, order, peace. Relatively clean. A place where a man can let down his guard.
3. Crown – Proverbs 12:4 “wife is the crown of her husband.” She makes him look good. Illustration: Guys – How did you score her? Good. Women – How did you score him? Bad.
Loveliness of a woman. Look better, smell better, sound better. Softer, cleaner, kinder. Your guy doesn’t need you to look like the cover of a magazine, he only needs you to look like you. Your husband is visual. Your appearance is important to him. If the barn needs painting, paint it. Dress well, do your hair, keep in shape.
4. Appreciation – What he does is not taken for granted. The role of a man comes with responsibility. Do you appreciate what he carries for your family? Hard work, decisions, protection. Men may not cry, but they still feel pain.
Nik – “I’m glad you have to make that decision. You’ve always made good ones before. I trust you.”
5. Sexual Fulfillment – Notice, not sex, but fulfillment. Men want to know that their wives enjoy them. They want to be wanted. Women need to take the initiative too.
6. Freedom – Space, hobbies, guy stuff. Not endless to-do lists.
Old ball and chain.
You have work for him to do, but you’ll be happier in the long run if you make sure he has his guy time.
7. Christ follower – No man can lead a woman who won’t follow. You need great faith, patience, tact.
Review- Men lead, Women follow. This is so that the world can know God and glorify Him. If that’s important to you, what the Bible says about the role of men and women should also be important to you.
Men Lead- Some were worried when they heard this. But last week we looked at the two paradigms of leadership. Lording and Loving. We discovered that the only way God approves of leadership is loving leadership. The man is to lay down his life for his wife.
Women Follow- What does this mean? The bible answers this question too. In Ephesians 5:21-24 we read, 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
The context for men to lead and women to follow is mutual submission. Neither is asserting self over the other, but rather self-will is sacrificed for the sake of the other. That is why Genesis 3:16 is so shocking. Here we read of the great divide that is the result of sin. When sin enters in, biblical man refuses to die and biblical woman refuses to submit.
Turn with me to Genesis 3:16
Text:
Genesis 3:16
To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
Body:
Submit = Respect + Obey
No man can lead a woman who won’t be led. Some have said, man may be the head, but the woman is the neck.
This morning I want to compare and contrast two passages: Genesis 3:16 and Ephesians 5:21-24. The first explains the reason that women and men struggle in their God-given roles. The second explains how we can be restored to the place God originally created for us.
“Desire will be for your husband” - In Genesis we learn that part of the curse of the woman is that her desire will be for her husband. What does this mean? There are only three places in the Bible where this particular Hebrew word is used. Once in this passage, one in the next chapter and once in the Song of Solomon. In the Song of Solomon 7:10 it says, “I belong to my lover and his desire is for me.” Clearly here it means that he has the hots for her. If this is the meaning of the word desire in our passage it would mean that the curse on the woman is that she would have the hots for her husband. Most of us guys would agree that it’s a blessing whenever our wives are attracted to us. Clearly this is not the curse.
In chapter 4 of Genesis we see the same word used of Cain when God says to him, But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it." Here it has the meaning of overcoming you or mastering you. This is the meaning in chapter 3. Because of sin the woman desires to take her husband’s role over. Her sin nature causes her to desire the lead even as the sin nature in the man causes him to rule when he should be serving.
The answer to this problem is found in Ephesians 5.
v. 21 Both men and women need to submit to each other. This is explained in vv.22-33.
Men do this through dying to self. Women do this through submitting their will to their husband. Three times in these verses the woman is instructed to submit. This means respect + obey.
What does this look like?
Jesus in the Garden. “Not my will but yours be done.” Jesus demonstrates submission within the trinity. Notice that He has a will. Women are supposed to have their own desires. That’s Godly. Notice that he voices His will. Women are supposed to have a voice and be bold to share their desires. But despite voicing His opinion clearly Jesus says, “nevertheless, not my will but yours be done.” This is what submission looks like. You recognize that after you have said your peace, you will leave it in God’s hands to decide. In Jesus’ case, He did not get what He asked. Did God the Father not hear Him? He did. But His will was better. Jesus recognized this and went with it. It’s no different in the context of marriage.
What if your husband is not a godly man?
“The only thing worse than being lonely is being stuck.”
Seven things Husbands need from their wives:
1. Respect – How you speak to your husband in private and in public. Man at dinner who’s head was bowed in defeat.
Balloon.
Nicole is “my biggest fan.”
2. Sanctuary – Well-managed house. Righteousness, order, peace. Relatively clean. A place where a man can let down his guard.
3. Crown – Proverbs 12:4 “wife is the crown of her husband.” She makes him look good. Illustration: Guys – How did you score her? Good. Women – How did you score him? Bad.
Loveliness of a woman. Look better, smell better, sound better. Softer, cleaner, kinder. Your guy doesn’t need you to look like the cover of a magazine, he only needs you to look like you. Your husband is visual. Your appearance is important to him. If the barn needs painting, paint it. Dress well, do your hair, keep in shape.
4. Appreciation – What he does is not taken for granted. The role of a man comes with responsibility. Do you appreciate what he carries for your family? Hard work, decisions, protection. Men may not cry, but they still feel pain.
Nik – “I’m glad you have to make that decision. You’ve always made good ones before. I trust you.”
5. Sexual Fulfillment – Notice, not sex, but fulfillment. Men want to know that their wives enjoy them. They want to be wanted. Women need to take the initiative too.
6. Freedom – Space, hobbies, guy stuff. Not endless to-do lists.
Old ball and chain.
You have work for him to do, but you’ll be happier in the long run if you make sure he has his guy time.
7. Christ follower – No man can lead a woman who won’t follow. You need great faith, patience, tact.
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